With us — as with those earlier peoples — the demand for liberty and unrestricted economic opportunities for women is occasioning contempt for and evasion of the functions of wife and of mother, emancipation from the home, increasing absorption in public affairs, gilf dating uk fever for pleasure, lapse of womanly traditions and morale. All of which developments passed rapidly, in those others, into general laxity, licence and corruption ; culminating finally in total ruin.
With them, the claims of Home and of The Family became, as they are becoming more and more with us, secondary merely and subsidiary to other pursuits; to personal ambitions, public careers, to pleasures, excitements, crazes for notoriety. Woman's inherent erraticism — defect of her intrinsic spontaneity, her bent for novelty and strong sensation — degener- ated, under the licence accorded her in ancient Rome, into the appalling orgies of The Bacchanalia; which were instituted by the sex. Women attended the displays of gladiators. They gilf uk watched the wild beasts tear their victims.
They themselves dressed as gladiators, and held mimic com- bats. By cult of muscle, they grew taller than the men. Sallust writes thus of a notorious Roman matron : " Sempronia had committed many crimes of a boldness worthy of a man. Blest alike in family and beauty, in husband and children, she was well-read in Greek and Roman literature; could sing, play and dance more gracefully than any honest woman need ; had many of the other accomplishments of a riotous life. She cared for nothing less than for decency and modesty."
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